ITS 2009, TEENS ARE BECOMING MORE ADVANCED IN THEIR EXPERIENCE YET LESS SO IN THEIR WISDOM AND DISCERNMENT; ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO RELATIONSHIPS AND HOW TO COPE WITH THE UPS AND DOWNS OF LOVE AND HOW TO PROPERLY EXPRESS ONES EMOTIONS. CERTAIN SITUATIONS HAVE OCCURRED THAT I BELIEVED WOULD CREATE A FORUM FOR WHICH TO OPEN THE DIALOGUE ABOUT MALE AND FEMALE ROLES IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE BUT THAT HASN'T HAPPENED...
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CAN OFTEN BE A TWO-WAY STREET. THERE'S A FLIP-SIDE TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN WHICH THE FEMALE PERPETUATES AND EVEN INSTIGATES THE VIOLENCE IN THE RELATIONSHIP. I DON'T BELIEVE THAT MEN SHOULD HIT WOMEN BUT ISN'T THERE A LINE THAT SHOULDN'T BE CROSSED BY A WOMAN EVER?
MAYBE ITS A DIRECT RESULT OF THE FEMINIST MOVEMENT OR JUST THE NATURAL EVOLUTION OF THE SEXES BUT WOMEN CAN BE JUST AS, IF NOT MORE VIOLENT THAN MEN. IS THIS AGE-OLD RULE OF MEN NOT EVER HITTING WOMEN UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE BASED ON THE IDEA THAT WOMEN WERE GENERALLY SMALLER IN STATURE AND SIZE OR THAT WOMEN IN THE PAST HAVE NOT BEEN VIEWED AS VIOLENT OR CONFRONTATIONAL IN NATURE? BECAUSE NEITHER OF THOSE IDEAS REALLY HOLD MUCH WEIGHT NOWADAYS. AND AS A WOMAN, I'VE LEARNED THAT YOU STEP OUT OF THAT "NEVER HIT A WOMAN" COVERING WHEN YOU DECIDE TO FLY OFF THE HANDLE AND SWING ON A MAN. A WOMAN WOULD KNOW THAT, A GIRL MAY NOT. AND A WOMAN WOULD TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE PART SHE'S PLAYED.
WE ALL HAVE OUR BAGGAGE AND WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES BUT I DO FEEL LIKE WE NEED TO EVOLVE OUR VIEWS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND HOW WE DEAL WITH IT IN THE JUSTICE SYSTEM. WE CAN'T CONTINUE TO SEE VIOLENCE AND ONLY POINT THE FINGER AT THE MALE COUNTERPART. UNTIL THEN, MAKE LOVE NOT WAR!!
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